Home Cook?

November 20, 2010

When vacationing in Bali, I saw a sign that said, “Missing home? Come to McDonald’s.”

Of course the sign was targeted to the millions of foreign tourists in Bali. And my thought directly went to the American tourists. Of course they are the target market of the advertising.

The funny thing is, come to think of it, I have been in the shoes of the American tourists. When me and several co-workers came to Taiwan several years back, the only place we felt comfortable and familiar to eat was, of course, the local McDonald’s.

When I first came to the US, the first place I had a meal in was a McDonald’s restaurant.

When my wife didn’t feel well and couldn’t make her mind on what to eat while we were in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, she asked me to get some fried chicken from.. McDonald’s.

We have been so used to global brands like McDonald’s, KFC, Wendy’s, Pizza Hut, Burger King, Starbucks, Coca-cola, Pepsi, that we automatically look for their trademarks when we are in a foreign place. It’s our comfort zone. It’s almost a surrogate of everything we are familiar with.

Some may say that it is a bad thing. What’s the point of going to another country only to eat or drink what you can find anywhere? Where’s the adventure?

Yes, they may cause world to feel bland and uniformed. On the other hand, there are at least three things that we can learn by the presence of global brands:

No matter where we are, there are people who like the same things as we do.

People are more or less alike, regardless of country, nationality, race, or religion. So it may actually be easier than we thought, to find a common ground with others.

There is a good chance that what is acceptable in a country, may be acceptable everywhere. An idea, therefore, could be a very powerful thing anyone could wield upon this earth.

So where does this leave our business with McDonald’s? I kind of see this fruit of Mr. Ray Kroc’s labor as the new lingua franca of the food world. Even better. In some countries, the number of people who know and eat at McDonald’s may exceed the number of the people who speak English.

Is there a McDonald’s or any other familiar international fast food restaurant chain where you are going? Then you know you there is a place where you can feel at home with the food.

Dreaming Mr. Dale Carnegie’s Dream

September 4, 2010

When I was in my early twenties, living a dream life was not something that I was much concerned. I was pretty much content with the life that I led then. I had a job. I had friends with whom I could hang out and enjoy the fruit of my work (in other words, spend money). It was great.

Then I was introduced to a group of extraordinary people. They have only one thing in their mind: achieving their dreams.

They have a particular system through which a person can build a network of product distribution to reach a level of ‘financial independence’. On that level, one is no longer dependent on a job to earn income. Once the distribution channel is in place, and goods start to flow through that channel, the person will earn a steady flow of comission-based income.

The person, who is in their lingo is called an ‘Independence Business Owner’ can literally ‘live’ his dreams on that stage. No more waking up early every day to beat the traffic to the office. No more bosses. No limit on what he wants to do on his next holiday. No problem in getting the big house with a swimming pool and 6-car garage (and the 6 cars to fill the garage, too).

It was a fun ride for a while. Then I realized that it was not the only way to realizing a dream. It depends mostly on what kind of dream that you have.

But ever since that stint in the network marketing business, I got used to the idea that dreams are not just to fill an idle afternoon. Dreams are supposed to be materialized. A dream comes to a person’s mind when it is time for that dream to come into being.

When it comes to dreaming, my first reflection is a carefree, comfortable, productive life. I dream of living in a beautiful house, in a quiet and affluent neighborhood. I dream of working from home. I dream of working not to make money, but to do my passion. I dream of helping less fortunate people to have better life and education. And so on. I can fill a book writing down all my dreams.

I dream of living my life having things, doing things. Too many things, in fact.

I remember the story of Mr. Dale Carnegie, the founder of Dale Carnegie Training. He spent years of his life trying to be successful as an actor. He was already doing an impressive job as a salesman for a meat company when he decided to quit, and use the money he saved to take a course in dramatic arts. He ended up applying his acting skills in a role in a traveling theatre troupe. Not like what he had dreamed of.

He ended up back in New York trying to make a living as a truck salesman. Yes he was an excellent meat salesman thanks to his upbringing in a farm back in Missouri. But selling trucks was a whole different game. And he didn’t like trucks, at all.

He wrote in his book that during that time, every night he went back from work to his small, cramped, roach infested room with a pounding pain in his head. He was so sick of it. He wanted to do something else, something that he would enjoy doing. He knew that he had nothing to lose but a job that he hated anyway.

Then he focused on his most basic dream in life. It was to have a teaching job at night so he can have the day for reading and writing.

From there, he thought of all the practical things he could do to make his dream come true. He found one thing he was sure would be beneficial for adults to learn. He convinced YMCA to let him do a night time public speaking course, and he agreed to be paid percentage of the profit. Then he worked hard to make sure that the public speaking class was successful.

Thus the abridged story of the birth of Dale Carnegie Training in 1912, the oldest business-oriented training organization in the world, which has since helped over 8 million people in over 80 countries around the world achieve business and personal results.

I kept thinking about that story, and I could not help being marveled at how apt it was to my condition now. No, I’m not saying that I am some sort of Carnegie-incarnate. It’s just I’ve been feeling like I am at a crossroad.

Remember all the things that I want to have and do? I should decide now which one I want to achieve first. Like in Mr. Carnegie’s case, I must find my simplest, most basic dream, the one that can be the corner stone for the rest of my dreams.

Right now my original dream is this: To have sufficient source of living that enables me to work for my passion without worrying about making money.

From there I must know the answer to the following questions:
1. What is my passion? What is the one thing that I am willing to do without getting paid?
2. If I don’t get paid for doing my passion, what will be my source of income?

To tell you the truth, it is the answer to the first question that is still elusive. The reason for that, believe it or not, is that there are several things that I would gladly do without getting economic compensation. In fact, everything that I’m good at I am willing to do for free. A problem arises when I am required to pick just one.

Perhaps, like Mr. Carnegie did, I should be more pragmatic and practical, and reverse the question. It is no longer about identifying things that I’m willing to do for nothing. Instead, from all those things, I must pick one of them that will yield the most benefit, and therefore people will be more willing to spend money on.

This is critical not only because it will be the most profitable skills to develop. It will also be the best use of time.

With that criterion in mind, I came to the conclusion that teaching, training and coaching skills are ones that people will find to have more practical values compared to my artistic interests.

Luckily, I have a less vague idea for the second question. I found a strong answer for this during my network marketing days. Day in day out we were reminded to build the distribution channel into a sustainable business, which in turn will replace our jobs as our livelihood.

I used to think that I have to build a business from scratch to achieve that. Now, I see my job in my company as a business building activity that will someday enable me to let go of my day job.*

The first time I read Mr. Carnegie’s words, I said to myself, “Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to spend the whole day just doing things you like?”

It never occured to me that I will have the opportunity to make the same choice.

*(Some of you are probably raising your eyebrows. What do I mean by my job is a business building activity? This is something I picked up from Cliff Hakim’s excellent book “We Are All Self Employed.” In essence, we are our own boss. Whatever job we do now is actually just a learning opportunity where we are trained in a trade, that may someday be useful should we decide to start our own business.)

Rediscovering a Forgotten

February 7, 2010

When I was very small, I used to love to watch people in the swimming pool. Swimming seemed to be a lot of fun. Everybody seemed to be having a wonderful time playing in water. I wanted to learn to swim. Unfortunately, there was no large body of water, natural nor man made, within 10 mile radius from my home.

But swimming pools had always been a great interest for me. I kept finding myself looking longingly at them almost wherever I could find them. And I had always been envious at people who could afford to have a pool in their homes.

Later, I moved to a more urbanized part of the city. There were swimming pools. I heard my friends talked about swimming in them. But still I didn’t learn to swim. I can’t remember why.

It was a stroke of luck that one day, my high school buddy asked if I wanted to take swimming lessons with him in the public swimming pool not far from our homes. He could swim, but he wanted to improve on his skills.

There I was, already in my teens, taking swimming lessons with kids half my age. It wasn’t so bad when I was in the water, because then it was just me, my buddy and our swimming coach.

And finally, after years of waiting, I was able to swim. It wasn’t anything fancy, but it was enough to get me moving in the water.

Afterwards, I looked for opportunities to swim. Until one day, I stopped.

I often feel like kicking myself if I remember all the excuses I came up with for not going swimming. Here are some of them:

  • - I don’t like swimming without friends
  • - The pool is too crowded
  • - My swim shorts don’t fit
  • - I’m embarrassed with my body
  • - I forgot to bring my swim shorts
  • - It’s too cold to swim

It came to pass that I fed myself too liberally that I got to the point where I became mildly obese. I knew then I had to feed myself less, and to move my body more. I bought a treadmill to ensure that I would exercise everyday.

It didn’t help.

One day, my wife and I went to a sport shop and bought a pair of swimming shorts. It was again a stroke of luck that they have my size, when many times before the shops never had ones so large.

The next Saturday, we went swimming in the same pool where I had my swimming lessons, almost 20 years ago. And on that day:

  • - I was not alone, my wife was with me.
  • - The pool was not so crowded yet.
  • - I wore a brand new pair of swim shorts that fit me perfectly.
  • - I was overweight, but I decided not to give a dime’s worth of what people would think when they saw my bulging body.
  • - The water was cold, but it was not bad.

There was no more excuses but to go ahead and swim.

And I swam.

I did about ten laps across the width of the pool before it got much to crowded to swim without running into another swimmer.

Next weekend, I swam in the pool of the hotel where we stayed.

Today, I swam again in another hotel pool.

I just want to keep swimming!

Next weekend will be a date between me and the good old swimming pool.

Getting Serious

January 31, 2010

Last month I signed up for my own domain name. Yes. It may sound a little silly and somewhat narcissistic, but I have good reasons for that.

In the nutshell, I’m getting serious about writing.

Here’s the list of the things I have done so far to enhance my writing:

No Item
1

Consolidate my blogs

2

Create a separate blog for my work related writings

3

Get a mobile device with qwerty keypad and all the bells and whistles for writing on the go

4

Get an SLR digital camera to take quality pictures

5

Set up my own domain name

6

Get a laptop PC

7 Download and install a blog application to enable offline writing

I have gotten almost everything I need. I am running out of excuses for not writing. The only missing ingredients is the will to make writing a habit, instead of just an occasional hobby.

My long term goal is to compile bits and pieces from my blogs into a book. Sounds cliché? Maybe. But that is how great writers got started.

Charles Dickens did not start by writing anything thick. He started his writing career as a court reporter. He took time to write sketches, simply to hone his writing skills. He wrote weekly installments for newspapers. By popular demands, the installments were published into a book. Then he began writing books. The rest is history.

If I don’t intend to be at least a good writer, there is no point in getting started at all. In fact, if I don’t intend to be good at anything that I do, there is no point in doing it in the first place.

Cough, cough, cough

January 7, 2010

Last month I took a deep drink from a glass of ice cold water, right after finishing a dinner of greasy, oily and spicy dish. Only an hour later, I began to develop a sore throat, which turned into a full blown coughing  the next day.

And one month later, I am still coughing.

I tried to alleviate the cough with a concoction of vitamin C, honey, flu tablet, and herbal drink in vain. I kept coughing and coughing. What I needed was, in retrospect, a few days of full rest in bed.

Unfortunately it was a luxury that I could not afford. My schedule was so full, I could not find even one day of rest. Although it was December and it was the season of Christmas holiday, I could not rest.

This should be a lesson for me. I must make time to rest, to give my body the opportunity to rejuvenate. In the prospect of a year more busy than the last, I should schedule days of rest.

Hopefully, I can find rest in the few days to come. I really want to sleep to my body’s content.

Drama of the Delayed Flight

October 13, 2009

After a 4-hour delay, I was finally strapped in my seat with 135 other passengers of the flight from Medan to Jakarta. It was already past 11 PM when the pilot revved the jet engines and brought the airplane up into the night sky.

It was the worst – and the most dramatic – delay I’ve ever experienced. My wife had warned me of the disadvantage of taking the last flight out. “It will be delayed,” she said. But being the positive, happy go lucky person, I somehow believed that the airline had learned its lesson and would do its best to avoid delays. Boy, I don’t think I’ve ever been more wrong in my life before.

I received the text from my staff at the office informing about the ‘change of flight schedule’, from 7 PM to 9.40 PM. I was incensed. “They cannot do this! They must take responsibility! I have the right of having the airline arranged a better flight for me!” thus my ranting went on inside my head. Yes, the regulations require an airline to transfer a passenger to a better flight upon request, should a more than 90 minute delay is inevitable. But since it was a ‘change of schedule’, technically it was not a delay, and the airline managed to weasel itself out of its accountability through that loophole. Only a 25% refund was provided, and I had to pay full fare if I wanted to change to another airline.

I had no choice but to grumblingly accept to stay with the flight.

I arrived at the airport a few minutes before 6 PM. Although the check in counter for the ‘changed schedule flight’ would not be open until 7 PM, the staff kindly led me to an open counter of a different flight to check in. Satisfied with the boarding pass in my hand, I headed to the executive lounge.

About 2,5 hours later, I was bored beyond measure. I hoped that I could browse on my HSDPA modem, enjoyed a free buffet, and relaxed, all the privileged of the executive lounge. I somehow had too much fried rice-fettuccine and pastries that within half an hour I was full. My HSDPA connection was rottenly slow. The PA system endlessly calling passengers to board, it was difficult to have a decent and relaxing rest.

At 9 PM, I left the executive lounge to join the other passengers in the waiting hall. I entertained myself on my smart phone, commenting on my friends’ posts on Facebook. At 9.20PM, the appointed time of boarding, there was no call. At 9.40 PM, the departure time, still no call. I walked up to the gate to approach a group of the airline staff who were busy teasing one another, and asked something in the line of, “When do we depart from this wretched place?”

The young woman turned to her friend, mumbled something, and turned to me with an uneasy demeanor. “I don’ t know how to tell you this, Sir, but we won’t be boarding until 10.45 PM, at the earliest.”

That would translate to 90 more minute of delay. There was an unmistakable sinking feeling inside me, very close to despair.

“I hope you can understand,” she quickly added.

What else could I do but to muster a herculean effort of an understanding?

As I sat down, another passenger, a big, dark, bald and unshaved man took my place at the counter. Unlike me, he was not in an understanding mood. He voiced his displeasure. He raised his tone. He ranted mercilessly to the helpless desk staff. A crowd began to gather around the scene. The man still went on and on, slashing at the staff’s lame attempts at making reasonable excuses. He kept going at it for about 15 minutes before he went back to his seat with an unsatisfied air.

I quickly changed my Facebook status.

On the background I could catch the man’s loud voice. I thought he was continuing his angry outburst. I looked over my shoulder and I saw him talking into his mobile phone. Then he turned to other travelers, telling them that they should trash the airline’s office to attract the attention of TV news crew, so everybody would know what the airline had done to its passengers.

What an angry, big, dark, bald man.

10.15 PM. A Boeing 737-300 taxied into the apron. It was our aircraft. I quickly gulped down the snack I got from the airline, picked up my heavy backpack, and sat at the front row, near the gate. After a few minutes, I left my seat and stood in front of the gate, determined to be the first to board the plane. Other passengers quickly formed a line behind me.

About 15 minutes later, the gate was opened, and I picked up my steps toward the plane. As I entered the door, I saw a young flight attendant standing, squeezing her eyelids several times to stay awake. I promptly gave her the nicest smile that I had left.  She smiled back at me and greeted me warmly.

Being done at stowing my backpack securely in the overhead bin, I took my seat and looked around at the rest of the cabin crew. I saw pretty young faces, wearing uniforms designed to flaunt their beautiful forms. They swiftly went about their tasks of assisting passengers into their consigned seats and put away their cabin baggage. They did their best to maintain a professional posture despite of exhaustion.

I could not help thinking, “How can anybody be angry at them? They are doing the best they can at their job. And to be perfectly fair, what happened is beyond their immediate influence.”

One hour into the flight, and after a box of snack and a cup of mineral water, everybody was content. Even the big, dark, bald man seemed to have forgotten about his anger, and talked to the stewardesses about (presumably) the airline merchandise they are selling.

How can anyone stay angry when seeing this excellent crew?

I honestly disliked the airline for failing to keep its promised schedule. But I must admit that they did have a highly professional crew.

And here we come to the moral of this story.

Sometimes, things (or s**t, as some people say) just happen. There is nothing you can do about it. There is no point of worrying about it. You cannot keep it from happening, and you cannot stop it from completing itself. When s**t happens, focus on the task at hand. Nobody can stay angry at you when you do that.

And being gorgeous while you are at it won’t hurt, either.

Who Am I?

March 12, 2009

The past four years have been the years of soul searching for me to find the answer to one, single question. That is, “Who am I, exactly?”

I used to harbor envy at people with deep passions in their lives. There are those who are so passionate about cooking, or filmmaking, or fashion, or photography, or wedding planning, or tennis, or golf, or dancing, or music making. And they found that passion at such an early age, they already made a name for themselves in their thirties, or even twenties.

I once read a short bio on Jamie Oliver, the British celebrity chef. Age-wise, he is only 12 days older than I am. Yet he had achieved so much in his 20′s, while in the same period of time the only achievement I made was living to the adage of ‘work hard, play hard’.

Here’s the rough comparison

Age 23
Jamie: hosted his first television show
Me: hmmm … what did I do back then?

Age 28
Jamie: Appointed MBE (Member of the Order of the British Empire) by Elizabeth II, Queen of England.
Me: still no clue

As with many people, the realization of the fleeting time dawned on me as I was getting nearer to my 30th birthday. I began to look around, and I could not help feeling dissatisfied with my life. I could not help having the nagging thought of, “Had I known what I am passionate about in my teens, I would have been in a better position, as of now.”

Somehow I had the difficulties of making up my mind on what I want to pursue on a professional level. Something that I enjoy doing, and at the same time it puts bread on the table.

I do know that my job now is not so bad. I learn a lot from it, and I do get satisfaction every now and then. One time, as I filled out my LinkedIn profile, I realized I have done many things, and I have made a difference for my company and for many people.

But have I made a difference in my life? Or am I just working to make a living?

The acid test is this: Would I do what I do now if I don’t get paid for it?

No.

Then what is the one thing that I don’t mind not getting paid for doing?

If I can answer that, then I will find the definition of me.

I pondered about this question for several years. I knew I had several interests in life, and I am pretty good at them, but which one of them really defines me? The one thing that people will put after my name when they describe me in a biographical entry.

Here’s some examples from wikipedia:

Christian Bale (born Jan 30, 1974) is an English actor.
Leonardo DiCaprio (born Nov 11, 1974) is an American actor and film producer.
David Beckham (born May 2, 1975) is an English footballer.
Jamie Oliver, MBE (born May 27, 1975) is an English chef and media personality.
Stephen Siregar (born Jun 9, 1975) is … ???

During the 4 years of soul-searching, I took inventory of all the things that were of interest to me. Of all that I could come up with, I came to the conclusion that I was a writer. Yeah, a writer! I wrote occasionally, and sometimes I got good reviews from the readers. And the most important thing was that it was something I enjoyed doing although I didn’t get paid for it. I could make a career in writing. Blogs, books, articles, whatever. I just need to write, write and write to get myself even better and better at it.

But then, I realized one important aspect in writing that might critically impair its economic potential. Writing took ideas, and ideas need inspiration. And in my case, inspiration is most of the time as rare as a four-leaf clover (well, alright, a four-leaflet clover, for crying out loud). I was not so diligent in writing as I had hoped to be.

So, if writing is not it, then what is?

I do enjoy picture taking, but I’m not much of a camera buff. I’m not the kind of photography enthusiast who spend a lot of money on cameras and their accessories. And instead of going hunting for the most beautiful sights on earth, I would rather hang out in cafes. I don’t mind not getting paid for my photos, but I also don’t like making money from taking pictures, either. So that can’t be it.

Everything suddenly became clear in the past 4 months. I had projects at the office that require the use of my designing skills. I worked on several designs, offering them to the users, and picked one that I believe would work best. I planned the project from scratch, hired furniture designer and technicians, and I delightly watched as my ideas took form into being.

And there it is now: the new lay-out of my office.

I got satisfaction from seeing the ideas that I combined in a design became a reality. I would do it for free, but since it’s part of my job description, then I was actually got paid for it!

I wished it had been a larger project with more funds and more risk to it. I wish it had been an entire building job. I wish it had been an extreme makeover project.

Then the enlightment suddenly hit me. This is it! This is the one thing that defines me! This is actually what I have been wanting to do ever since I was in elementary school. This is me! This should be how I look at and how I approach my job. No matter where I am, no matter what I do.

Stephen Siregar (born Jun 9, 1975) is an Indonesian designer.

25 Things Most People Don’t Know About Me

March 11, 2009

(Previously a Facebook Application Content)

1. My wife accuses me of being over-narcissistic at times. Usually when I spend too much time in front of the mirror. Too much time. Like, you know, 5 seconds.

2. At other times, I don’t like being the center of attention. You know, like when 800 something people had their eyes fixed at me. That’s why I’m not into performing arts, nor politics, nor reality shows.

3. I can be a true morning person. I like cramming as much things to do in a day from sunrise to sundown.

4. At other days, I like taking the time to wake up very slowly in the morning. I mean slowly. Really slow. Like one eyelid at a time.

5. As a Gemini who was born under the shadow of planet Mercury, I can be very fluent at talking my way out of sticky situation. My senior in college once called me ‘a pig’ to my face, when he became a victim to that ‘special’ ability. I wonder how he knew that pigs could talk like I did.

6. Yet there are many times when I would rather shut up and keep everything to myself.

7. In the morning, I hate to think of what to wear today. If possible, I would rather wear the same suit again and again until they’re all ragged from overuse.

8. But sometimes I love to dress up so meticulously that I end up depressing myself from thinking of all the things I must do (and shop for) to be perfectly groomed.

9. I’m born melancholy phlegmatic. One time my perfectionist side possessed me completely, I took about half an hour to rearrange the messy pile of discounted audio cassettes in a Carrefour store into neat rows, with all the spines uniformly facing up. If I had had another half hour, I would have arranged them alphabetically by artist’s name.

10. But when I was too lazy to bother, I used to let my books strewn all over the floor in my room for weeks on end. Well, now that I’m married, that doesn’t happen anymore. Or I will get an earful from my wife.

11. I sometimes read two or three books different books at the same time. Today I read several chapters from one book; tomorrow I read some from another, and so on until I got all three books finished. If I can watch like 20 different TV programs in a week and manage to remember the story, why can’t I read 2, 3 or even 10 different books?

12. I can’t understand what’s to like from local soap opera (or sinetron). Bad story, bad acting, bad directing, bad everything. But those series enable some people to enjoy celebrity status, even when the only thing they can do is pretending to act in front of a camera. Amazing what TV can do to a nation.

13. Mini version of hell on earth? Being stuck in a local hotel room with no cable and local channels only. I don’t mean to be a snob; it’s just local programming is really that bad.

14. I have difficulties to decide what I really want to do in life. Not that I don’t know what to do, but I have too many options. Hum, decision, decision, decision.

15. I’m a sucker for anything tidy, orderly, well designed and perfectly organized. That’s why my favorite places are Singapore, a Disney theme park, and an IKEA store.

16. If I had a million dollars, I would spend about half of it to build a perfect home for me and my family. One with a spacious backyard for the children to roam around and play to their hearts’ content. The other half I would spent to travel around the world. Three times.

17. Some people actually think I’m a very kind and nice person. Although it is flattering, it’s hard for me to believe. I must admit that I still function on self-serving mode at times.

18. The funny thing is, I once took a personality test, and the examiner said the result showed that I was a kind and nice person. I don’t know what part of the test result made the examiner thought so. He said that my wife was very lucky to have me as a husband. Thank God. I hoped she would agree.

19. I try to be polite and thoughtful to anyone, and I expect other people to do the same. Then I found that some people are just mannerly challenged. Nothing personal. It’s just the way they chose to be.

20. When I was younger, I wondered why I was born an Indonesian. Then I realized, otherwise I wouldn’t have had the friends that I had then. I liked them so much I would rather not be born anywhere else. And I still think so.

21. I was a math whiz in elementary and junior high school. Always in top of the class. Then I was downgraded to a class dunce in high school. It’s still a mystery to me, even now. But I suspect that calculus had something to do with that.

22. In college, I never got my balance sheet balanced. Yet I’m working in finance now. And I’m still waiting for the punch line.

23. I am so in love with my 1300 cc Toyota Avanza. Designed for Indonesian and ASEAN market, it is considered the best MPV in value and versatility. It handles so well in congested traffic, and it uses fuel as economically as a penny pinching Jew. When my wife suggested that we should get a better car, I said, “Yeah! Let’s get a 1500 cc Toyota Avanza!” She snorted and rolled her eyes at that.

24. I once lost 14 kgs, maintained the weight for about 3 years, and gained 35 kgs in the next 8 years. If there is one thing that I should be lazy about is this: keeping my weight.

25. I coaxed my friends into tagging me so I got to make this list of 25 random things, never mind whether they really want to know about me or not. But I was just dying to tell people about me. Go figure.

25 Random Things Most People Don’t Know About Me

February 18, 2009

(Previously a Facebook Application Content)

1. My wife accuses me of being over-narcissistic at times. Usually when I spend too much time in front of the mirror. Too much time. Like, you know, 5 seconds.

2. At other times, I don’t like being the center of attention. You know, like when 800 something people had their eyes fixed at me. That’s why I’m not into performing arts, nor politics, nor reality shows.

3. I can be a true morning person. I like cramming as much things to do in a day from sunrise to sundown.

4. At other days, I like taking the time to wake up very slowly in the morning. I mean slowly. Really slow. Like one eyelid at a time.

5. As a Gemini who was born under the shadow of planet Mercury, I can be very fluent at talking my way out of sticky situation. My senior in college once called me ‘a pig’ to my face, when he became a victim to that ‘special’ ability. I wonder how he knew that pigs could talk like I did.

6. Yet there are many times when I would rather shut up and keep everything to myself.

7. In the morning, I hate to think of what to wear today. If possible, I would rather wear the same suit again and again until they’re all ragged from overuse.

8. But sometimes I love to dress up so meticulously that I end up depressing myself from thinking of all the things I must do (and shop for) to be perfectly groomed.

9. I’m born melancholy phlegmatic. One time my perfectionist side possessed me completely, I took about half an hour to rearrange the messy pile of discounted audio cassettes in a Carrefour store into neat rows, with all the spines uniformly facing up. If I had had another half hour, I would have arranged them alphabetically by artist’s name.

10. But when I was too lazy to bother, I used to let my books strewn all over the floor in my room for weeks on end. Well, now that I’m married, that doesn’t happen anymore. Or I will get an earful from my wife.

11. I sometimes read two or three books different books at the same time. Today I read several chapters from one book; tomorrow I read some from another, and so on until I got all three books finished. If I can watch like 20 different TV programs in a week and manage to remember the story, why can’t I read 2, 3 or even 10 different books?

12. I can’t understand what’s to like from local soap opera (or sinetron). Bad story, bad acting, bad directing, bad everything. But those series enable some people to enjoy celebrity status, even when the only thing they can do is pretending to act in front of a camera. Amazing what TV can do to a nation.

13. Mini version of hell on earth? Being stuck in a local hotel room with no cable and local channels only. I don’t mean to be a snob; it’s just local programming is really that bad.

14. I have difficulties to decide what I really want to do in life. Not that I don’t know what to do, but I have too many options. Hum, decision, decision, decision.

15. I’m a sucker for anything tidy, orderly, well designed and perfectly organized. That’s why my favorite places are Singapore, a Disney theme park, and an IKEA store.

16. If I had a million dollars, I would spend about half of it to build a perfect home for me and my family. One with a spacious backyard for the children to roam around and play to their hearts’ content. The other half I would spent to travel around the world. Three times.

17. Some people actually think I’m a very kind and nice person. Although it is flattering, it’s hard for me to believe. I must admit that I still function on self-serving mode at times.

18. The funny thing is, I once took a personality test, and the examiner said the result showed that I was a kind and nice person. I don’t know what part of the test result made the examiner thought so. He said that my wife was very lucky to have me as a husband. Thank God. I hoped she would agree.

19. I try to be polite and thoughtful to anyone, and I expect other people to do the same. Then I found that some people are just mannerly challenged. Nothing personal. It’s just the way they chose to be.

20. When I was younger, I wondered why I was born an Indonesian. Then I realized, otherwise I wouldn’t have had the friends that I had then. I liked them so much I would rather not be born anywhere else. And I still think so.

21. I was a math whiz in elementary and junior high school. Always in top of the class. Then I was downgraded to a class dunce in high school. It’s still a mystery to me, even now. But I suspect that calculus had something to do with that.

22. In college, I never got my balance sheet balanced. Yet I’m working in finance now. And I’m still waiting for the punch line.

23. I am so in love with my 1300 cc Toyota Avanza. Designed for Indonesian and ASEAN market, it is considered the best MPV in value and versatility. It handles so well in congested traffic, and it uses fuel as economically as a penny pinching Jew. When my wife suggested that we should get a better car, I said, “Yeah! Let’s get a 1500 cc Toyota Avanza!” She snorted and rolled her eyes at that.

24. I once lost 14 kgs, maintained the weight for about 3 years, and gained 35 kgs in the next 8 years. If there is one thing that I should be lazy about is this: keeping my weight.

25. I coaxed my friends into tagging me so I got to make this list of 25 random things, never mind whether they really want to know about me or not. But I was just dying to tell people about me. Go figure.

Exciting Changes

January 31, 2009

My office building needs some serious repairs. In raining season like these days, water drips from leaks in various parts of the ceilings. There are leaks in the meeting room, leaks in the storage room, leaks in the reception area, and even in the office that I shared with 5 other people.

The worst leaks are ones in the meeting room wall. We’ve been trying to stop it for years with various remedies. We tried wall-papering, we tried re-plastering, all without success. Only a few days after repainting the wall, the leaks showed up again. First as small blots, then they got bigger and bigger.

I invited a building contractor, an acquaintace of mine, to have a look at the place. Accompanied by my GA, we took him on a tour of the place, just so he knew where to look for leaks. Later he came back with his technicians to do a full assessment.

Here’s what he came up with:
- The meeting room wall should be covered with ceramic tiles
- The archive room should get a new roofing
- The entire porch roof should be dismantled to replace the plywood underneath

And that’s just for starters.

Some people can see this as a disaster. But I try to look at the situation from a different point of view. I try to see it as an opportunity to create a new look for the office.

Apart from the repairs, several new recruits will be added to our already 40-strong team. This calls for additional desks and chairs, and for rearrangement of the office lay out.

These changes are really exciting for me. I have discussed with my friend for ideas, and we got some great ones.

The wait for the ideas to come into reality is almost unbearable.

Patience, my soul, patience.


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